- Trust that God is with us throughout the discernment process no matter the decision.
- Figure out what the issue is. This is really important! We can spend a lot of time trying to discern something without knowing what the issue is.
- Find out if there are clear requirements to solving the issue, or if the requirements from the past may be the issue.
- Bring the congregation into the process at many points along the way.
- Allow leaders to propose ideas and even solutions.
- Make sure all are heard on the issue. Listen to each other.
- Remember that everyone in the discussion is our Christian sister or brother.
- Speak and debate—even argue—in ways that promote fellowship and unity.
- Communicate the decision and any stipulations attached to the decision.
- Do not expect the decision to hold forever. It will be re-examined again and again. At some point we may have to agree to disagree.
- Don’t expect that we can force a decision on others at a distance from us. When we are together, we are to act in mutual submission, but do not try to force adherence to a decision when we are not together.
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